May 16, 2008

Starbucks Offering this Sunday

Guest Blog: Brad O’Brien

Coming up this Sunday (May 18th) we, as a congregation, will give our starbucks offering. Over the past four or five weeks you have heard about this offering, but I wanted to use J.D.’s blog as a platform to explain it to you one more time and give you a glimpse of how we plan on using the money that we give this Sunday.

If you have been around the Summit for a little while you know that each summer we make a concentrated effort to love and bless our community. Our goal for the week of hope isn’t to give you a once a year experience of community ministry. Our goal is that the week of hope each summer will be a launching pad for you to find a way to participate in ministering to our community on a regular and ongoing basis.

As we thought about the offering that will help supplement this effort we wanted to give you the opportunity to experience something special. As a congregation, the Summit is very generous. That is actually an understatement. The Summit has proven over the past six years to be ridiculously generous. But our goal with this offering isn’t just to get you to write a check. We want you to experience the joy that comes from knowing that by sacrificing affordable luxuries in your life, others can be blessed.
What are affordable luxuries? For some of you they may include unused memberships, manicures, pedicures, eating out, going to the movies, $4 coffee drinks, bottled water, new shoes, etc. I am not sure what affordable luxuries means to you, but I know that we as a church regularly enjoy affordable luxuries while many of our neighbors don’t have enough to provide their families with the necessities for daily life. How is God leading you to sacrifice so that others can be blessed?

This summer we have several opportunities arranged for the Summit and other congregations in the RDU area to come together and serve our community. This summer we are working with three of our local elementary schools to meet some of the needs that their principals and staff have identified. At some of these schools we will be repainting hallways and classrooms, scrapping chewing gum off of desks, removing staples from cork boards, refreshing landscaping, and many other tasks. We plan to have more than 1,000 volunteers serve these three schools over two days (July 11 & 12). We are also arranging a free dental clinic and general health care clinic for the community of North East Central Durham. We are working with a couple of our local ministry partners to provide a free car care clinic for people that are in need  and just need someone that they can trust to look at their car and give them some help. We will continue to work on our Habitat for Humanity house that is being built in North East Central Durham to use our resources to provide affordable housing to families in need. An apartment complex in North East Central Durham has approached us and asked us to bless them by doing a beautification project at their property. We are planning to do some exterior painting, window washing, trash pick-up, and landscaping. These are some of the projects that we are currently working on for the body of Christ to mobilize in a concentrated effort to serve and bless our community. These are just a few of the efforts that will be made possible by the money we give this Sunday. Please prayerfully consider how you can sacrifice so that our community can be blessed in an intentional way!

Check for updates of projects and info at www.hopefordurham.com

Our Missions Strategy: 3

(This is the 3rd installment of a working discussion I am having with myself on our church's missions philosohpy. Today I want to consider how we see our relationship to the Southern Baptist Convention and other such parachurch organizations).

There seem to be two extremes when it comes to working with the Convention for the purpose of missions.

The first extreme is when churches depend on the agencies of the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) to do church planting and missions for them.This is what I call "bad parachurchism." OK, yes, I totally made that term up. But here's what I mean: there is good parachurch and bad parachurch. GOOD parachurch ministries FACILITATE the ministry of the church. A good parachurch ministry attempts to be a resource to the local church through which the church can do her ministry more effectively. BAD parachurch takes ministry from a local church and does it for her. Bad parachurch says, "Give us money and people and we'll do ministry for you." 

The SBC was born out of the "good parachurch" model: the agencies of the Convention facilitated the ministries of local churches. Local churches led in the ministry, the Convention served the initiatives of those churches-- but it was the local churches that took the lead and got things done. Over time, it appears that some parts of the SBC have shifted into 'bad parachurch' mode. They expect the local churches to turn over resources so the agencies can do the work. Burgeoning bureaucracies were created that basically duplicated what was to be happening in the local church. We, the local church, are to give our money and be happy with the results, and scolded for not giving properly.

Churches are God's vehicle for ministry. Jesus' strategy for reaching and transforming the world was have His Apostles plant churches in every community (this was Paul's entire strategy!); the local church has the potential to provide the most wholistic, community-loving, Gospel-preaching, multi-generational community necessary for fully-orbed ministry.

Local churches are best suited to provide the resources, training, accountability and drive necessary to accomplish church planting. Churches plant churches. For any parachurch organization, including the National and State Baptist Conventions, taking  this initiative out of the hands of the local church is surely doomed to failure. (to note, I am grateful for and in support of some parachurch ministries which, by my definition above, would be considered 'not ideal'--i.e., ministries not directly tied to a local church. I am in support of them because they are doing things that local churches are simply not doing yet. I am grateful for their ministries, and personally contribute financially to them... I am also grateful that many of them are actively seeking ways to participate with the local church. We have representatives of several of these ministries in our church, and I am VERY grateful for them.)

We, the Summit Church, don't just recruit people to work for the International Mission Board (IMB) or take up money to give entirely to them. These church plants around the world are ours. But before I get ahead of myself, let me mention the opposite extreme:

The second extreme is when churches believe they can do it all by themselves and do not need the expert guidance of parachurch organizations like the International Mission Board. The blessing and curse of my generation seems to be an independent, can-do spirit when it comes to mission. I just finished reading Stephen Neill's A History of Christian Missions, and one of the points he makes is that though Protestants have historically been extremely zealous for missions, we often have charged into unreached areas like Lone Rangers with no sense of who else was doing what for the cause of Christ there. Because of our lack of cooperation, we have often repeated easily avoidable mistakes and caused unnecessary chaos in the fields they we are trying to reach. The IMB has full time "experts" devoted to knowing the various fields, studying what methods work, and linking like minded movements together. They provide a wonderful organization through which to plant churches.

We try to avoid either extreme. We don't just give money and recruits to the IMB and ask them to do our church planting for us. But neither do we charge out to it alone. Our church has chosen to cooperate missionally with the Southern Baptist Convention because we believe unified effort between Gospel-loving churches increases our effectiveness in church planting, leadership training, and public witness.

The IMB's massive resources (that are compiled from so many churches working together) make it so that our missionaries do not have to raise support. The IMB makes a great structure for technical training of our missionaries, ensuring their care while on the field, and giving strategic direction. But they are still "our" (the Summit's) churches we are planting. The initiative lies with us; we use the IMB as the vehicle through which we plant churches. To note, the IMB has been great to work with in this regard.

May 15, 2008

Sunday is coming

Most people think that the idea that you can stay passionately in love with someone for the rest your life is a myth. That's why screenwriters rarely let the star couple in an ongoing show actually "get together," because after that we think the relationship gets boring. It's also why when you see two people totally into each other at a restaurant or something you think "they must be dating," or "they must be newlywed," or "they must be having an affair."

My goal this Sunday is for you, when you see a couple all over each other in a restaurant, to say, "they must be one of those married couples who has just gone through the Song of Solomon Exposed series.

And if you're single, Solomon has a lot of good points for reflection about character, trust, and commitment that are good for us all to think about.

Also, this week is the STARBUCKS offering. Just in case you haven't caught it yet, the Starbucks offering is our challenge to you to, for one month, give up some "luxuries," like a cup of Starbucks, for a month and channel that money toward blessing those in our city who are "without." This month, Veronica and I have had a good time making coffee at home most mornings, and our pastoral team has foregone eating out together at lunch. It's been a good exercise, and God has showed me how much money I personally waste on things that I really could do without.

If you haven't really done anything yet on the Starbucks offering, perhaps this Sunday you could do a "faith promise," meaning you figure out what you could do without in the coming month and give that amount. At any rate, I hope you'll take this chance to experience the joy of sacrifice and giving. I think you'll find that seeing the Gospel of Jesus' sacrifice go forward is a greater joy than life's luxuries.

May 13, 2008

Our Missions Strategy: 2

This is part 2 in a working discussion I am having with myself about our church's mission philosohpy. Feel free to interject your thoughts into my stream of consciousness. In part 2 I want to discuss a unity between 3 things which are often separated in a church.)

The second peg of our missions strategy is this: We see a unity in community ministry, church planting, and international missions. Here's why:

  • In order to really transform an area for the Gospel, you need to minister to both body and soul. The preached message of the Gospel is paramount, but to make the Gospel message intelligible to our audience we must demonstrate God's love in action. Plus, if we love our neighbors we won't sit by when there is a need we can meet. Therefore, we try to teach members that their "secular jobs" are vehicles for blessing the community. We also try to lead every small group to be meaningful involved in blessing the community in some way.
  • The most effective way to transform an area is to plant a church, because a church is the best at doing both of the above. Plant a church and teach the new community to preach the word and care for the physical needs of the city.This was consistently Paul's strategy in Acts: go to the most strategic cities in the world and plant churches there.
  • When you plant a church, the church should establish itself, immediately, as a transforming, caring force in the community. They can do that by caring for the city's poor and teaching its members they should seek to bless the city. Rather than simply meeting as a core group for a year in a Starbucks or a school cafeteria, they should go in serving the community.
  • What we do in strategic overseas cities is really an extension of what we do here in our own cities. We will seek to meet the needs of the unchurched city in say, Indonesia, in the same way we have met our own city's needs. (This means, btw, that some of the most needed overseas church planters are not 'professional ministers,' but people with a genuine, marketable skill that they can use to bless the community.

May 09, 2008

Being "Young" and Southern Baptist? Ed Stetzer, Paige Patterson, and etc

Recently my friend Ed Stetzer released a Lifeway study showing that the Southern Baptist Convention actually declined in membership in the past year. Ed (together with Southern Baptist president Frank Page) caution Southern Baptists that this probably reflects a drift of the "younger" generation of Southern Baptists away from the SBC. Ed's research is convincing... he shows that this is a 50 year trend, not just a one year blip. Ed ends the article with a very penetrating question, "Now is the moment for us to hone our vision and take on a bigger battle—we must battle to build upon our Conservative Resurgence and make it a Great Commission Resurgence... If we don’t, why did we bother with the Conservative Resurgence in the first place?"

One of my mentors, Paige Patterson (president of the Southwestern Seminary in Ft. Worth) took exception to some of the conclusions. Dr. Patterson brought out a number of good points, including:

  • Dropping in membership numbers can actually be seen as a good thing, if it represents removing some of the "inflatedness" of Southern Baptist numbers (i.e. counting people who haven't been to church in years because they left the faith, have joined other churches, or are dead, all of which are true of many Southern Baptist churches that have 3000 on the membership role and only 300 present on Sunday morning).
  • The supposed decline in membership numbers does not indicate a failure of the "Conservative Resurgence" for at least two reasons: 1. The baptism/membership numbers of the "moderates" who left the Convention are much lower than those of conservative churches. 2. Ultimately, the conservative resurgence was not borne out of a desire for increased growth, but out of a passion to be faithful to Scripture and the historic doctrines of the church, recognizing you could find "no place in history where any movement based on questioning the authority and accuracy of God's Word ever produced evangelistic fervor, missionary zeal or healthy churches."
  • "Mean-spiritedness" is never appropriate in the cause of Christ and is to be regretted.
  • There are a number of "younger" pastors (of whom he cited me as one), who have not left the Convention.
  • Many of the "older" Southern Baptist leaders have spent their lives investing in younger leaders and remain as mentors to those leaders today.
  • Many of the "younger" pastors who have left the Southern Baptist Convention have done so because they simply do not share the convictions of Southern Baptists... convictions on things like faithfulness to Scripture, the historic doctrines of the Gospel, the necessity of faith in Christ and the call of God to world evangelization.
  • The really critical issue for Southern Baptists is not that we need a new worship style or more up-to-date marketing, but the fact that we have substituted dependence on God in prayer with flashy, ready-made programs, and replaced the responsibility of believers to share Christ with clever marketing schemes.

Both Ed and Dr. Patterson are my friends and men I look up to, and both share the same values and commitment to the Gospel. Both love the church and her mission.

Let me explain first off that our church has chosen to cooperate missionally with the Southern Baptist Convention because we believe unified effort between Gospel-loving churches increases our effectiveness in church planting, leadership training, and public witness. The blessing and curse of my generation seems to be an independent, can-do spirit when it comes to mission. I just finished reading Stephen Neill's A History of Christian Missions, and one of the points he makes is that though Protestants have historically been extremely zealous for missions, we often have charged into unreached areas like Lone Rangers with no sense of who else was doing what for the cause of Christ there. Because of our lack of cooperation, we have often repeated easily avoidable mistakes and caused unnecessary chaos in the fields they we are trying to reach. Therefore we (the Summit Church), through the SBC, want to link up with missional, like minded churches for the purpose of mission.

I also want to say that I am exceedingly grateful to Dr. Patterson and other 'older' Southern Baptists who have invested heavily in my life. I was told long before I met Dr. Patterson that he was a mean-spirited man by some people who obviously did not like him. However, upon meeting Dr. Patterson I did not find the charges of mean-spiritedness to bear any real truth at all. He was gentle and forgiving. His insistence that we remain faithful to Gospel doctrines grew out of a fervent love (or so it appeared to me) for Jesus and for people. He was the one who taught me, "You must always be sweet. You can never do Christ's work with Satan's spirit." I began to wonder if the charges of mean-spiritedness were truer of Dr. Patterson’s critics than of Dr. Patterson.

I do want to note, however, that Ed's call is a timely one, and one that I believe we absolutely must heed. I do know some "younger" Southern Baptists who have left the Convention, or, having stayed, involve themselves in it only minimally. I'll try to make this short and to the point:

  • Misplaced focus on priorities other than the Gospel. The Baptist Faith and Message 2000 is our statement of belief, and its beauty is that it is specific enough to define us as a Gospel-faithful people, and broad enough to tolerate acceptable diversity among us. "Southern Baptist" should not indicate a style of worship or a political platform or interpretation about issues of Christian freedom or a stance on the finer theological points of Calvinism or even one's position on minor spiritual gifts. The Convention exists for a shared mission around the Gospel. When minor things (such as the ones I listed) become major things, then the mission itself becomes minor. When that happens, many Gospel-loving people look to better organizations to facilitate their cooperation in mission. We need to renew our commitment to the Baptist Faith and Message, 2000 as the substance of our unity.
  • Failure to distinguish between necessary cultural adaptation and real worldliness: In an attempt to separate Christian witness from the pollution of the world, some Southern Baptists have mistaken a cultural preference for faithfulness to the Gospel. We have assumed that faithfulness to the Gospel meant a certain style of music, a certain tradition of worship, a certain method of evangelism, even a certain tone of voice and a certain coiffed hairstyle. Most Southern Baptist churches are a beautiful blend of the 16th and 17th centuries. The tragedy in this is that in those places where we absolutely SHOULD NOT look like the world--specifically how we treat money, power, and outsiders, we look just like the world--like Samson, we have not only failed to "overcome" the Philistine culture, we have absorbed their values and look just like them in the places we are supposed to be distinct. Many younger Southern Baptists have seen that in order to reach their culture they were going to have to change some of their methods and traditions. No doubt they (and I) have made mistakes in attempting this, but some older Southern Baptists have mistakenly insisted that we hold on to some things that have nothing to do with the Gospel. If given the choice between effective Gospel ministry and Southern Baptist traditions which have nothing to do with the essence of the Gospel, many younger pastors will choose (correctly) the Gospel.
  • Bad parachurchism: OK, I totally made that term up. But here's what I mean: there is good parachurch and bad parachurch. GOOD parachurch ministries FACILITATE the ministry of the church. A good parachurch ministry attempts to be a resource to the local church through which the church can do her ministry more effectively. BAD parachurch takes ministry from a local church and does it for her. Bad parachurch says, "Give us money and people and we'll do ministry for you."

The SBC was born out of the "good parachurch" model: the agencies of the Convention facilitated the ministries of local churches. Local churches led in the ministry, the Convention served the initiatives of those churches-- but it was the local churches that took the lead and got things done. Over time, it appears that some parts of the SBC have shifted into 'bad parachurch' mode. They expect the local churches to turn over resources so the agencies can do the work. Burgeoning bureaucracies were created that basically duplicated what was to be happening in the local church. We, the local church, are to give our money and be happy with the results, and scolded for not giving properly.

Some missional churches are not actively participating in the Convention because they don't see the SBC helping them (that is, the local church) fulfill the call God has given to that local church to plant churches. Sure, sometimes "younger" pastors don't give because they are arrogant, shortsighted and don't see the value of cooperation. Often, however, it's because they are not convinced the SBC is best channel for fulfilling their calling to reproduce and multiply. And this is, in part, because they see the Convention taking ministry initiative away from the churches.(Of course, there are some things local churches can't do effectively... for example, most churches cannot house a an academically credentialed seminary... and for that we are happy to turn over the role to a Convention agency. We should not, however, relinquish the responsibility to raise up and train ministers). 

Many of these new churches are simply not going to give to the SBC out of a sense of loyalty. They are going to give to the SBC when they see that this is the most effective way of accomplishing the call placed on them to plant churches and transform their cities. Many "younger" pastors are more committed to the call of God to plant churches than they are to the Convention, and this, in my opinion, is not a bad thing. When the Convention reveals that it is the best investment for assisting the local churches in training leaders, planting churches, and doing the work of God in the world, that is when many of the "younger" pastors will give their money and involvement to the work of the SBC.

We, the Summit Church, give somewhere around 21% of our budget outside of our church to evangelism, community ministry, and church planting work. We give a significant portion of that to the Convention because we do see the value in cooperation and shared resources. We know that whenever you cooperate not everything will be done exactly as we like it, and we are ok with that. We send out most of our teams under the direction of the IMB and try to give generously to the IMB for that purpose.

We also recognize, however, that the Summit Church will answer to God personally for His command on us to multiply and grow, and so we prudently evaluate how effectively the money we give to church planting efforts is helping us to fulfill OUR calling to plant churches. We are more committed to the call of God on us than to a "denominational giving program." As the Convention helps us fulfill our calling, we will participate in it.

I do believe that as the SBC refocuses itself on the priority of the Gospel, majoring on it and not on other minor (though important) things, and that as it continually realigns itself to catalyze the work of local churches, we will see more "younger" Southern Baptists happy to remain a part of this great mission organization.

May 07, 2008

Our Missions Strategy: 1

Over the next few weeks I'd like to spell out, perhaps sporadically, how God has shaped our view of mission. I'm doing this as much for myself and our church as I am for anyone else... sometimes it helps to think out loud on these things.

The first thing I want to say I'm sure seems obvious, but on closer consideration is not something we should take for granted... and that is that we are very committed to empowering our members to be "on mission." The reason I say it is not as "obvious" as you'd first think is that there are two basic approaches to church that are popular.

The first is "attractional"... and that basically is the idea that Sunday morning is the key time for churches to reach people so all the energy goes into getting people to that one spectacular event. The ministry is built primarily around one man, who is himself very fruitful.

The other approach is "incarnational," wherein the members are empowered to carry the power of God into the community. Sunday morning is not the primary place of ministry, nor is the pastor the primarily fruitful minister. Sunday morning is the "staging area" wherein believers are empowered to go be fruitful in the community.

Which approach is correct? Both have an element of truth in them. Sunday morning is, in American culture at least, the place where it is easiest to connect with unbelievers. However, as a pastor my primary goal is not to gather a throng of people merely impacted by my own fruitfulness, but to train people to become fruitful in their own rite. The church is not one, fruitful genius surrounded by several thousand dependent sheep; rather, it is one pastor dedicated to seeing others become every bit the leader he is. After all, 39 of the 40 miracles in the book of Acts happened outside the church. God wants to be in the marketplace, and pastors equip members to take Him there.

That's why I am unbelievably excited that we had 115 PEOPLE COME TO OUR 'PROSPECTIVE CHURCH PLANTERS' LUNCHEON LAST SUNDAY. That's right... 115 people who are praying about LEAVING our church to go plant churches either somewhere in America or overseas. I love the idea of people leaving our church to go and plant their lives somewhere else. Obviously I want a lot of people WITHIN our church committed to our own community and leading here in RDU through the ministries of our church... but if given the choice between people sitting in the congregation admiring and soaking up my teaching each Sunday or using their ministry gifts in a church plant in an unchurched area, I would without hesitation choose the latter.

Of the people we send out, not all will be "church staff" or "vocational ministry" people--many will go and get "regular jobs" and be a part of the serving, paying, praying, incarnational, Christ-sharing, believing-God-for-awesome-things ministry team in a new community that desperately needs the Gospel.

So, peg 1 of our missions philosophy is that we are committed to empowering people to send them out to build the church.

More to come...

May 06, 2008

Multi-Site = Multi-Opportunity

By Rick Langston,
Summit Associate Pastor & Cole Mill Campus Pastor

Becoming one of the first but growing number of churches using multiple locations has been a daily  adventure. Just learning to talk the language of multiple campuses is a challenge. Lets face it, we're all pretty location-centric. That means, where ever I am the most, gets most of my attention. So we have to keep revisiting the idea behind what we're doing if it's going to be worth it. "What did you say the purpose of this multi-campus thing was again?"

Reaching People.

Yeah, it's that simple. Each campus is a distinct congregation in a distinct area with its own opportunities to reach people with the Gospel. Our two campuses are 15-20 minutes apart. That means each of them is 15-20 minutes closer than the other to thousands of people. You might have to think about that for a moment, but its true.

The number of multi-campus churches is rapidly growing across the country. One phenomenon that's been seen is the opportunity these churches have to partner with other congregations. Some existing churches have found revitalization through these partnerships. Is this a possibility for the Summit? What does it even mean? We don't know. But, we're exploring some possibilities. We have talked with another church in Durham that is open to discussing how we might partner together to do what we started this whole thing for in the first place...

Reaching People.

Stay tuned. This ought to be fun.

May 04, 2008

Broken beyond repair?

Guest Blogger: Cynthia Mann, Summit Counselor

As Counselor on Staff at The Summit Church I have met a lot of different people. Actually, since marriage counseling is at least 70% of what I do, I’ve met a lot of different couples. I was excited to find out J.D. was preaching an entire sermon series on marriage. I knew many marriages were benefiting. But what if you are in a marriage that feels absolutely broken and irreparably damaged? Was being told to go have fun on a date, start communicating, start having sex, even how to love each other, enough to mend the relationship?

Recently I have seen a new trend in counseling couples. I am encountering men who are seeking help after their wives have walked out. These men are often surprised and confused by the depth of their spouse’s unhappiness, but they are also desperate to heal the relationship. But despite their willingness to go to counseling and work on the marriage, they receive no hope or encouragement from their wives. In their book, The Walk Out Woman, authors Steve Stephens and Alice Gray describe the hearts of many of these women:

“One woman we spoke to told us she had seriously thought about leaving her marriage nearly every day for more than two years. She was overwhelmed with feeling disappointed, hurt, misunderstood, and unappreciated. Several other women told us they were lonely and angry to the point of despair. They had lost all hope for their marriage…”

How can we as a church walk alongside these couples in a real and significant way? How do we help those that have been hoping, praying and waiting until they are exhausted?

If you are broken, there is help. Here are three immediate steps you can take:

  1. Buy the book The Walk Out Woman. Give it a chance before you give up.
  2. Talk to someone WISE, a fellow believer that will walk with you. This person may be a friend, a small group leader, a pastor, or a counselor. If you decide to see a counselor, go even if your spouse won’t! God can do amazing things in you even if your spouse never shows.

  3. Finally, when you don’t know where to start or how to find God in your life, speak out, ask for help. We want to walk with you. Even when your spouse seems like your greatest enemy, God remains faithful. Psalm 36:5 says, “Your love, O LORD, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.” You might be broken and damaged, but you are never beyond repair.

If you want to help others, here’s a training event for you: on May 31st Dr Sam Williams will teach Basic Biblical Counseling for the Lay Person. It’s for those of us who aren’t experts, but who live and share our lives in a community of hurting people.

Ultimately, brokenness in the Body of Christ requires healers at every level, not just the pastors. We may not all have suffered in identical ways, but we are all broken. Ministries like Celebrate Recovery and Counseling help, but true healing within a broken congregation comes when individuals within the body of Christ walk together. The phrase love each other is a part of our vision statement for a reason!

May 02, 2008

My Life is Half Over

So, yesterday I turned 35... as one of my friends told me, "You are now in a whole new age bracket" (that's not true, most age brackets I've seen are "18-35," so I'm still "young"); and another told me, "Hey,  do you realize your life is officially half over?" No, I hadn't. Thanks. My wife took me out to Angus Barn for a truly sinful dinner... as I considered whether or not to get dessert, she told me, and I quote, "No, have the extra dessert. You can eat whatever you want now. You're 35 now so no one finds you attractive anymore anyway." (Oh, and thank you facebook community, to all of you who wrote happy birthday on my wall... facebook has created a whole new world, hasn't it?)

As I was spending time with God early yesterday morning, I began to reflect on the first half of my life... I wasn't doing this intentionally it was just that thing where your mind wanders while you pray sometimes... and I thought about the fact that when the next 35 years is over I will most likely be standing before God to give an account of my life. I was suddenly overcome with a strong sense of how so much of my first 35 years have been lived selfishly--with me as my primary concern. (I know that many of you think that going into the ministry means you automatically live for others and for God, but you very quickly find ways to masquerade serving yourself as benefiting others.) As I look back on my life, I can't tell a lot of difference between living for myself and truly living for the Kingdom of God, and was able to see that most of my life has been dominated by a preoccupation with my own interests. I was overwhelmed with a sense of regret. It caused me to do a few things:

  • I determined to live in such a way that I would not feel the same way when I was 70, and asked God to help me to really live for His glory and purposes, not mine, and to give my life as He did for the benefit of lost people.
  • I literally clung to the blood of Jesus which is my sure promise of full acceptance before the Father. I know that when I am 70 the blood of Jesus will still be my only hope, and that I will stand as dependent on it as I have ever been. My hope for life is not, and never can be, in how I live, but in what Jesus has accomplished for me on the cross. He is all my hope and peace.
  • I have many people to serve, but only One to please. I determined that His call on me would be the only criteria I use to judge the success of my life.

I was also overwhelmed with a sense of gratefulness at the life God has given me. I have an incredible wife who loves me and serves me and gets prettier with each year. She always listens to me, and really tries to understand me. She is my companion and best friend, and she loves to make me happy. I have 3 healthy, beautiful children who make every day a humorous adventure. I have good friends who really care about me. I serve with the greatest people on earth and I love my job. My parents and my parents-in-law are all still alive, and love Jesus and stand as a spiritual covering above my family.

I have 2 conflicting emotions as I think about the next 35 years. The first is a sense of unbridled optimism about the opportunities ahead for our work at the Summit. We have so many things ahead of us... people to win to Jesus, congregations to plant, leaders to train. I can't wait to see what each day brings.

The other is a sense of overwhelming gloom... when I think about the massive numbers of people in RDU alone who don't really know Jesus and who will spend eternity apart from Him I start feeling helpless... and then  the 1/3 of the world who has never had the first witness to Jesus... I feel like no matter how much we accomplish, it will only be a drop in bucket. Sometimes this sense of unbridled optimism will be followed immediately by a helpless-feeling depression. I feel like an ant who's been charged with removing all the water from the ocean one molecule at a time.

All I can do is give all I have to God, my five loaves and two fishes, and ask Him to do more with it than I ever thought possible. And I can pray that God will bless the work of Gospel-loving people all over the world so that together, we can see His Kingdom come and see His salvation fill the earth.

"Lord, so teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts to learn wisdom." Psalm 90:12

May 01, 2008

Being a Dad

Quick note: We are on week 6 of our 7.5 part Song of Solomon "Exposed" Series. This week: FIGHTING. The title is, "I Love You and I Hate You." Conflict is a staple of marriage... really of any relationship.Lion_woman_in_charge Conflict is not the problem. It's how we handle conflict. Good couples are not couples that don't fight; they are couples that fight well. Jesus can teach us to fight well. (There's a title you probably won't ever hear... "Jesus can teach you how to really fight.") Hope to see you Sunday to talk about it...

Here's some quotes I've come upon recently (in this month's Christianity Today)that were especially meaningful to being a Dad... of all the hats I wear, this is by far my favorite. I am convinced that fathering is the greatest thing I am doing for the cause of Gospel.

It is much easier to become a father than to be one.  Kent Nerburn, Letters to My Son:  Reflections on Becoming a Man

I Confess to thee that I am not worthy to rock the little babe or wash its diapers, or to be entrusted with the care of the child and its mother . . . O how gladly will I do so, though the duties should be even more insignificant and despised.  Neither frost nor heat, neither drudgery nor labor, will distress or dissuade me, for I am certain that it is thus pleasing in his sight.  Martin Luther, Luther’s Works

A Full Night’s Sleep, time to oneself, the freedom to come and go as one
pleases – all this must be given up . . . Huge chunks of life are laid down at the behest of infants.  And then, later, parents must let go.  Elizabeth Deryer

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world. New_picture


We have said that children must honor their parents as the natural and therefore the closest representatives of God.  I should consider it unreasonable and dangerous to invert this proposition and to say that parents should feel and act toward their children as God’s representatives.  Karl Barth, Church Dogmatics, Vol. III, Part 4

New_picture_1 (These great pictures by our new Summit friend Kimberly Naranjo at Evolve Photography Studios here in RDU!)